[pst! ⏳ sensitive] A little wild fox, the universal laws of free play

Remember 10 years ago when I used to write about my parenting experience and was willing to start facilitating free play groups for early childhood? Well, I’ve done it. 100%. And I’ve been loving it all the way long. It’s been fun, revealing, inspiring and messy. Above all, it’s been healing. And wild.

Slowly I started taking notes and writing down my thoughts on free play here and there in uncountable paper sheets and random notepads spread all over the place. Then 2020 came and the whole flow collected its power, shaping itself into a book: A Little Wild Fox, the Universal Laws of Free Play.

And I’m eager to share with you, my loyal English readers, a special gift to celebrate. I’m offering a massive discount on regular price, only until Sunday 13 at only $0.99

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What is this book about?


In a sequence of postcards as simple as poetic, A little wild fox explores, almost from the activation of personal memory, why early childhood is a crucial stage that deserves deep attention and care. María Raiti portrays in its pages some of the wonders that happen in a free play encounter, from the moment the space is swept and cleaned before opening the door to time when the families leave and the air remains filled with a deep and vital calm.

Using the metaphor of the different foxes of the world, its lines guide us to that early age in which the human baby, thanks to its playfulness, lays solid foundations for the future unfolding of its potential.

The author collects anecdotes from everyday experience through which she details the multiple biological principles of free play and reveals its universal laws. She shows us how to create ideal habitats in which free play can thrive, how to identify its main predators and how to sustain an ethical perspective to prevent its extinction.

It offers an accessible and enjoyable reading experience for families while providing cutting-edge information for educators, therapists and anyone interested in fostering full human development from the very beginning of life.

(sort of) Kennings Glossary by a Toddler and his Mother. InNaPoWriMo Day 13

play_activity_18closet-drawer: transferring time

toilet paper-pyramid: boy this is mine!

 

fascination-monster: garbage truck

saucepan-spoon: what a great drum!

 

crumble-bun: fine motor skills

hypnosis-circles: stroller wheels

 

nature-symphony: best music player

onion-peel: translucent layer

 

sandal-sole: chewing device

ice-cream-shop: I run so nice!

 

daily life-thing: I get creative

battery-operated: makes me so passive

 

window-palette: a subtle rainbow

lightswitch-click: to you I bow!

 

heaven-portal: that’s the front door

biscuit-jar:  my ultimate goal

 

eyes-light: my little child

bed-time: dream sweet and mild

future-insight: until the blessings of a new day

respect-parenting: rewards you with uninterrupted free-play

 

(wait… what is a kenning?)

There’s Kids Art for Dinner. A sucessful nutrition service-learning project.

When you caress your baby you are giving him love. You are teaching him to love and in this way you are also nourishing him.

When you caress your baby you are giving him love. You are teaching him to love and in this way you are also nourishing him.

Today I read this post about Food Fights at Not Just Cute.

Then I remembered a project I wanted to share here and this might be the right time for it:

When our older child was in Grade 2 they did a nutrition project at school.

Teachers invited nutrition professionals for an interview, children cooked, they analysed industrial food ingredients and advertisements, they watched videos and played games.

Not only regarding taste, but also the other senses that can be nourished: sight, smell, touch, ear…

Kids did all this with a tremendous interest because it was a service learning project and they were really involved.
The final goal was to create banners for CONIN, an Argentinean NGO working against malnutrition in community canteens where food was served for free to children of their same age.

They thought of a slogan synthesising their nutritional recommendations, they compiled all what they had learned and created two different banners to decorate the community canteens:

  • abstract compositions using kitchen tools,
  • a painted white plate using the yin-yang symbol as background.

Each child painted one plate and in pairs they did the abstract composition.

One of the slogans they came up with was: “let’s become artists, let’s serve at least three colors in our plates”.

Now our child is almost 12 years old, so 5 years have passed by. Still today, when we are serving dinner, he (or his brothers who learned this from him) says: let´s count how many colors do we have here.

This is a very simple way to include a well-balanced meal with protein (dark brown, dark red, white, yellow), vegetables (orange, pink, red, green) and cereals in a same food (soft brown and white)!

Here are some of the art works and slogans children age 7 came up with. I particularly like the last one where the lady is breast-feeding her baby. Which one do you like most?

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Pride, no prejudice. Or why my boys wear flower crowns.

A paper moon, a fading sky.

Evanescent daylight.

Stilled mind opens the gap for a flower hunt.

moon in the kitchen sky
Accomplished the task, hidden mischief, back home we are.

Now scattered perfumes, melted beauty fills the kitchen´s heart.

Nature´s palette embellishing the table of the newborn night.

Also scissors, tape, cardboard (recycled pizza boxes, actually… pizza always inspired us).

natures pallette

In and out flows our breath.

Harmonious creativity, a silent path.

Suddenly the surprise.

Oh my!
A little king emerges,
precious nature’s jewels adorning his inner sky!

the flower jewel

– I love you mom, his petal whispers fall into the fountain of my heart.

A new day arrives, get the camera, go outside.
Catch the best of morning light.

Apples, cheese and bread.

A royal breakfast, pure simplicity.

Three little kings sit and chit-chat.

So young, so proud.

Fulfilled, satisfied, I wear my crown.

Ripe dream, let me be a queen.

– Here son, take a picture of mine.

I extend the camera to the older child.

He takes his time, presses the shooter, shows me his art.

There´s no queen to be seen.

That´s only me, a simple smiling mom.

the mother queen

His focus is in my eyes.

– How I love you son, whispering petals fall into the fountain in his heart…

Now, could you let me see a picture of me wearing the crown?

Click.

– There you are, mom. the queen´s crown

Maternity.

Fading beauty, eternally mine.

Rebel or zen aspirant? A 3 years old life adventures.

Hum! Our little self directed player started kindergarten two months ago. He was longing for it. His older brothers attend school and he wanted to join eagerly (once again, excuse my colonial English). That was his ultimate goal.

We have the joy to now his teacher really well since the other boys also had the luck to start kindergarten guided by her loving and clear expertise. We appreciate and trust her and the teaching team.

Now, the thing is our little “gentleman”, who knows very well about the joy derived from free play, seems to be undergoing some rare transformation in Kindergarten. “He is in a rebel attitude”, the teacher told me the other day, “he only wants to do what he wants to do”.

Yes, I noticed that too. The difference is I appreciate his initiative sincerely and I´ve become a much more relaxed mom since I discovered he didn´t need me to organize his games. I just had to step back and enjoy observing how his own creative play unfolds in front of my eyes.

Please don´t missunderstand me. We really love this Kindergarten, it´s play oriented and applies a human values educational program which is simply great. The thing is “play routines” here depend on the adult´s criteria rather than the child´s spontaneous curiosity or impulse. The kind of “now we do this, now we do that” decision is not anymore under the realm of his freewill.

When I ask him how he´s feeling about it, then he says: “when I play, I play”, “when I´m angry, I´m angry”, “when I finish, I finish”.

Oh! How deeply immersed in present time is his consciousness. Here and Now, pure Eternal Present.

And I wonder… How can we softly introduce him into the realm of Rules and Time?

Fly within. A postcard

Today we had a wind storm.

Our little 3 years old and I were going outside to the front garden and we both were surprised to feel the clean autumn air against our skin. Yellow and golden leaves where dancing all around.

The small boy stretched out his arms wide open and asked:

– Why doesn´t fly?

– Do you mean why aren´t you flying?… May be because you didn´t close your eyes, I answered stretching out my own arms. Just before closing my eyes I could peep at him: a little, radiant, smiling face told me he was soaring his inner sky. Joyously I joined in, entering my own spiritual field.

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No colorblind test. It´s a humble Love Card.

We did this card for Father´s Day last year. Thank God kids did not want to use it as a Frisbee since it was the only present we had! It says “I love Dad” in lime green and the background is in yellowish orange & red.

Kids painted using watercolors, cut in stripes and then in squares. I pasted the whole thing using carpenter glue on a thick cardboard (I thought they´d love the pasting part but they didn´t even want to think about it).

After finishing I took a look at our present from a distance and I could hardly differentiate the background from the figure. Since I´m not feeling like going to oculist, I convinced my self this difficulty was due to the use of a common color for both: yellow. I love yellow, I couldn´t help it. Anyway you could choose plain colors for a better contrast if you try this project.

I´m sharing this to show Kristin at Intrepid Murmurings how she can do a Frisbee with her kids, since pizzas over there only come in square boxes and massively eating pizzas to export the trays is not going to do any good to our health.

By the way, don´t be surprised if after finishing your art, kids resist to throw it up in the air.

– No way, mom! This is not a Frisbee. We want to hang it on the wall.

You know. Divergent creativity works like that.

Divergent creativity (or how to let your kids make a Frisbee)

I´m the kind of person that sees a child´s painting and feels a vibrant emotion similar to the one you get when observing an original Picasso ceramic plate at the Modern Museum of Art.

“I used to draw like Raphael, but it has taken me a whole lifetime to learn to draw like a child”, Picasso said.

Beauty, composition, balance and expressive freedom are infused in children´s art works with a sensibility that is not easy to match.

That´s one of the reasons why I tend to collect their artistic productions and create impromptu art exhibitions on walls, doors and windows. I do this for several other reasons too, including the satisfaction of seeing the results of my creative parenting and educational ideas. It´s also great for them, because they can keep track of their progress. Check this great solution I found at parents.com:

parents.com

I do have lots of ideas for art projects! I´d like to share one of those ideas and it´s unexpected hidden lesson for me.

We love eating pizzas from Maxipasta, the best Pasta House in the West (… of Buenos Aires). The minute I saw the disposable pizza trays I knew they were a great support for painting, so I collected them until I had 23 pieces  (the sad part is I came to realize we might be eating too much pizza, but that´s another story).

Then I chose the best painting material (I decided it was acrylic painting) and I stealthy waited for a perfect time to chase my kids  creativity, honoring the lioness mother there was in me (now I´m becoming a humane mother).

Today the perfect moment has come, I can feel it in the air.

There is no need for words. I simply take down the acrylic pots, the brushes jar and the white pizza canvas (I also bring some water and wet cloths for my scenario). Kids are attracted to the table and they start painting immediately. I can see how their breath becomes rhythmical. Silence reins.

“Oh! Magic is here”, I whisper to myself, doing my best to not interrupt their concentration. Beauty is manifest in the emerging colors and shapes on the good old pizza trays. My creative idea had converged with their creative impulse and there was only a perfect feeling of total union, as a long-dreamt-of hug with your beloved one under the meeting point at Ezeiza airport: you meet him, you hug each other, you become one. That´s what I am experimenting at this point. I am loving it and I dedicate my self to the art of observation.

I´m deciding on which wall I am  going to hung their paintings  when the most unexpected situation happens.

“I think this is going to be the best one”, says boy nr. 1.

“Wait to see how mine flies”, answers nr. 2.

“Yea! Fly, fly, fly!”, toddler giggles.

“What do you mean by fly, honey?”, I dare to ask.

“To fly is to move in the air without falling, mom”, the older one patienly explains.

“I know that dear. But these art works are not meant for that. I´ll hang them on this wall, what do you think?”

To my utter disappointment my kids do not want to hang their plates anywhere and they are not going to change their minds.

They´ve painted helicopters, ninja stars, spaceships, yellow balls and molecules. Now they want to use them.

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They want to use their art as Frisbees, throwing the trays in the air and catching them back. They want to see which ones fly best, wich ones are more “powerful”. So they put the fresh paintings in the sun to get them dried as soon as possible.

I resist.

Quite a bit.

I offer them new trays, plain white, to use for that game.

“These are for hanging on some wall, even on the door if you want”, I insist not wanting to see that my creative will, the same that 20 minutes ago was in perfect unison with my kids, is now clearly becoming a divergent line and every word I say makes it move just a bit further.

“Of course not, mooooom!”, they complain notoriously in disagreement.

“But playing like this you´re gonna crash your art works!?” I mumble trying to convince them of what I still don´t want to recognize for what it is: an impossible task.

“White ones are a real disaster”, they complain.

“Those don´t even fly as good as a helicopter, nor do they attack as a ninja star”, they add.

They start asking themselves why did they took the time to paint if now they cannot use them?… They keep on complaining but I have a cerebral feature that allows me to lower their voices thinking louder than what they speak. It helps me a lot when I feel stuck and in need to reverse difficult situations.

“Ok, Ok, I got it. You mean white trays do not fly the same”, I say to gain time and think how to solve this creative mismatch. Thank God they insist a bit further, and because of that I´m forced to find a better solution.

Finally it´s not me who happens to think of a safe exit from this dilemma. Oh, magic is back!, our creative channels abruptly converge again:

“Listen, mom. You could take photos of the paintings and then let us play with them, ok?”.

I give up. I grab my camera, find good light near the window and press the shutter. After a tray is captured it takes off, literally, to fulfill it´s true mission on earth. All of them fly high, far and with style. But each one has a special power conferred by the colores and shapes with which they were decorated. Never, ever, ever a white disposable pizza tray could have performed as these ones do.

They are the most wonderful Frisbees in the whole world and demonstrate, from the very beginning, why free creative play is an art in itself.

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From a Self Directed Playing Baby to a Self Responsible Creative Citizen

 

About two years ago my mother sent me a link to watch a video of street musicians singing and playing Stand by me. Towards the end of the song there was a link to Playing for Change organization. Somehow -maybe destiny?- I misspelled the web address typing Play for Change instead. I really liked what I found there and very much appreciated the game you must play to enter the site.

 

This made me curious enough to accept the challenge and I finally defeated the 7 myths that “still keep millions of would be world-changers lost in the maze”.  I proudly read the information beyond the maze and convinced myself of the importance of keeping my own myths under constant check. So I signed in to become part of Creative Communities. I was feeling really enthusiastic about it… but maybe the evil myth monsters caught my eyes and hipnotized me a bit after all:

Slow and steadily, I forgot most of this enlightening concepts regaining my daily routine of problem solving oriented thoughts. Until recently.

On December 16th my Inbox had a Christmas greeting from Play for Change: a provocative article as a gift from David Engwicht and the staff at Creative Communities. Today, finally, I had enough time to read the article which, again, fueled my enthusiasm about the “playful perspective” to change and improve communities. But best of all, I suddenly realized there was an existing link between self directed play for babies and self responsible citizens. Engwicht article reads:

“The late Hans Monderman was a Dutch engineer who pioneered the removal of traffic control devices from villages. His grand vision was the ‘re-democratization of public space.’ He said, ‘As an engineer, it is not my job to try and forecast every potential problem the village may have in the future and resolve that potential conflict, in advance, through design. Every time I resolve a potential conflict through a new regulation or white line, I de-skill the community in resolving its own conflicts. And resolving conflict is at the heart of building robust, resilient communities.”

Just as the inhabitants of any community deserve to develop their own problem solving skills, babies have the right to conquer their own skills in a safe environment through self directed play. So many times I´ve felt tempted to anticipate their difficulties and to resolve their conflicts. And I did it with the best intentions under the spell of my own myths: they looked so little, so innocent, so helpless. But as a result of this “help” (not only the one I offered but the one most of well intended adults tend to offer) they really de-skill their inborn abilities and learn to become adult centered and dependent.  Later on, during their childhood and teenage they´ll have to struggle hard to regain  what was inborn but lost. This is something no one wants to happen and as an educator I did worry a lot about older children´s need for an adult intervention to reach independent and creative play. Ironically, well intended “helping” adults become would be childhood saviours lost in the educational maze. Through its corridors, educational myth monsters hypnotize them: babies are not complete humans, babies need everything done for them, babies need to be stimulated constantly, all healthy babies should reach developmental stages at certain ages. Is it so?

Mainly thanks to Emmi Pikler and Magda Gerber contributions (whom I discovered thanks to Janet Lansbury) I´m starting to learn my lesson and open my heart so I would stop “thinking” how to stimulate babies development and start “observing” them mastering their own interests. This does not mean “abandoning” babies. No! This means trusting babies and offering an adequate safe play oriented context where they can unfold their inborn potential knowing they are fully free precisely because we are standing by them, supporting and respecting their unique way of being and their enthusiastic way of becoming. And we reassure our love and support being 100% present when nursing, changing and bathing them.

Just as a playful perspective transforms world “problems” into real “solutions” created by responsible citizens, a respectful approach towards infants self directed play transforms educational problems born out of an adult interventionist model into real “babies developmental activism”. Being their uniqueness accepted, they also learn to love and accept themselves and to love and accept others, though they might be different. I´m sure societies at large will be greatly benefited  if infants and children are reared in such trust, support, respect and freedom. If babies could say it in one sentence, I´m sure that would be:  “Oh, darling, darling, stand by me”.

By the way if you would like to watch the video I mentioned above, here it is. Enjoy and celebrate diversity!

Taran! Game

Today I present you another great game that emerged from the endless creativity source surrounding me: my kids!

This time, we have being watching Cirque du Soleil videos and my little men got immediatly body-involved with what they saw. To my surprise, they turned sofas into jumping boards and pommel horses and home library into scaffolding gymnastic set. Mhmm… Their initiative to play circus was great, no one could deny that. Problem was this was not quite what I expected them to do with our home furniture. How to channel their will to play and save our house (and themselves) from possible total destruction? Quite puzzling, right? Here´s when the Taran! game appeared to save the day.

Again, I don´t know really who thought of it. How this creative game came to life is still a mystery for me. It just happens, like in the Papparazi game. We are there, certain curiosity is there, certain unbalance is there and, plum!, a new game appears. I´m starting to believe it´s a collective construction: no owner, many enjoyers.

This one is very simple. You just need two kids to do a  fun acrobatic performance for about 10 seconds (they don´t last much more in the position) and say: Taran! Then repeat it as many times as kids want to, even get them to practice while you do other chores as cooking, reading, blogging a bit and caring for the toddler in the family who might not be ready for Taran! yet… as you will see in a near future post.

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Paparazzi, Grandpa and Cockroach. The games inventors.

Hi! I´m really happy to take part of the very last  Moms’ 30-Minute Blog Challenge held by Steady Mom. This has been a great motivation for me to write in English and an opportunity to share some of my motherhood adventures with many wonderful women around the globe. So thank you Jamie!

Today I have something big to share with you.

It´s a discovery.

A terrific scientific discovery.

It´s based on an hypothesis, it´s being put to test under strict observation and the emerging conclusions are simply great good news. At least for me.

As you might already know, I´ve been undergoing a crash with the concept of self directed play and all other Magda Gerber´s wonderful ideas. She helps us fostering an adequate development in young children, building their selfconfidence and self directed play. Based on studies done in Hungary at the Lockzy Institute, they discovered the enormous importance of letting babies and toddles play in free and safe environments, without being overstimulated nor interrupted.

Magda Gerber

Now, as I said, this information is fascinating for me. Every thing I read about it resounds within my self as pure truth and abounding common sense. The thing is I´m a mother of three wonderful boys who are not babies anymore and we are done with it: no more babies in our family (I agree with you Jamie, we farewelled our stroller long ago).

So, I was feeling somewhat sad that I didn´t come in touch with this information before… I know I did my best and I trust my kids. I know they are great, creative, goodhearted children. As all kids are. But I would have really liked to reinforce their selfconfidence and self directed play and I was feeling it was too late. They already developed their movements, their communication abilities and their socialization. They already walk, talk and make friends.

In time I realized this feeling was a reflection of my own mental restriction and it had nothing to do with kids´ age. So I got the idea of experimenting Magda Gerber´s pinciples with older children, my children actually.  I organized a Play Group for them and their friends every Friday and I keep my agenda really free for those 2 hours. No phone calls, no cooking, no cleaning, no blog. I´m just there. My intention is to be a validating presence, minimizing my interventions as much as possible while I imagine myself as a runway for them to take off soaring the sky of imagination and play.

The amazing part of this experiment is not my attitude though. What´s really great is what they started to do during this time. In the beginning they started playing what was familiar to them. Strongly influenced by gender, boys wanted to play soccer (we live in Argentina and soccer is a sort of national obsession) and girls became princesses in the backyard playhouse. Slowly new ideas started coming out.

The very first day, they told short stories and used all house props to create a scenario to roleplay them. Next idea was to take pictures of the whole thing. So I offered my camera and after a few shots, all of a sudden, the Paparazzi game appeared. They were “famous” artists followed by journalists wanting to get an exclusive shot. They run helter skelter to scape the lens of my point and shoot for about 30 minutes. They took turns to be the Paparazzi and afterwards they checked the results of their silly game in the computer, laughing really loud with every single shot. Now they want to play Paparazzi everyFriday (and the rest of the week too) forgetting it all about soccer and princess-hood. Let me tell you this game is a real success: they just run, run, run and laugh, laugh, laugh… with so little.

“Paparazzi” has a disadvantage, though. The only camera we have is my Panasonic Lumix, which I got as a birthday present and I´m not that willing to let them bang it by accident when trying to get the best shot of their friends. Hence, this does not meet the requirement of  “letting them play alone”.  But it´s a wonderful example and it was a revelation for me. I´m sure they have created this kind of games a thousand times before, but I was not paying attention. Now, I don´t want to miss a detail of their new creations and find an enormous satisfaction in observing them enjoy their body movements, their relationships with others, their imaginative flow…

Since then I´ve witnessed the silliest and funniest games inventions I ever saw. For example, they play Grandpa!. It goes like this: one child says in a very loud voice “Grandpa!”, streches his arms and hugs the first thing he sees. Many times, he jumps flat on the floor hugging it. Have you seen 5 and 8 years old kids hugging the “grandpa floor”? It´s really fun to watch. When I asked them how to play this game, the middle one explained: “everything is my family, so I hug everything”.

There´s also the Cockroach game, which actually is nothing but inventing excuses not to do what one is asked to. This is inspired on a book we once read in Spanish: “1o Excuses not to eat vegetables”. I must say we are vegetarian and my kids eat everything what´s put on their plates with delight (I´m not sure if this flattering the cook or their hunger!). Anyhow the Cockroach game goes like that. They invent something they don´t want to do and run away saying: “I can´t do that right now, I´m killing the Cockrach!” (being vegeterians we respect all forms of life including insects but cockroaches are the only bug I kill when found at home). This ends every time with a big laughter and they have been thinking of writing a book on excuses not to eat vegetables and the cockroach thing is top on the list.

Their friends came to know what´s happening here on Fridays and they want to come too. So right now I have 7 creative hearts inventing all kind of games around me once a week and I´m loving it. When I asked them how to name this Game Group my 5 years old said: “Easy mom. Name it Free Play”.

My 30 minutes are gone. I wanted to share so much and I was in a hurry so I didn´t double check my English as I usually do. I thank you for your patience and for reading up to the very end. There are more games inventions to share with you. I will be coming back every other tuesday to publish them here and I´d love to hear from your children silliest and funniest games ever too.

For now, I just wanted to state my great discovery: as long as my children live with us, it wont be too late for me. I still can step back, stop overstimulating, stop interrupting and let them become free players. I guess this might be one of the purest joys of my life.

The “Do not disturb toddler” revelation

This post is dedicated to Janet Lansbury who inspired me to discover and enjoy self directed play.

image from loversandfriendsmemypadandmypen.blogspot.com

This weekend I had a revelation. I´ll cut the long story short and will briefly share what happened using an instructable writing style and lots of photos (which value more than thousand words) to meet Steady Mom´s 30 Minute Blog Challenge standards.

Instructions for a “Do not disturb toddler” revelation

You´ll need a relax Sunday, a pretend-to-be creative mom with crafts ideas, water colors, pencils, paper, a camera and a normal toddler.

Note: Mom tends to think he is unique, creative, intelligent, tender and fun, which makes him an outstanding toddler. She ignores -prefers to forget- being outstanding is the most normal thing for a toddler.

materials ready to start painting a creative mom´s craft idea

toddler chooses big brushes, these are too big to paint with our watercolors I think, but he´s playing peek-a-boo... I´ll take a photo, he´s so cute...

when he realizes he needs to choose a thiner brush I think he´s finally going to start painting on the paper but he goes round the table and decides that painting the Jar is much more fun

then he goes off to the next self directed play idea: building brush towers needs lots of concentration and balance...

I believe this boy really loves me and finally, wanting to please me, he turns his attention towards the white paper I placed on the table for him to paint. This lasts a few moments, then he declares "it´s raining, it´s pouring" and happily sings along transforming his body and soul into a great drummer.

In the very, very end of the game, he feels ready to paint using two brushes in one hand.

Game is over and off he goes while I insist in taking a picture of "my creative idea" for encouraging my toddler´s creativity... Mhmmm!

Here is my little boy, smiling so happy when he is asked to explain how he did his art work. He simply says: "I did it" but I know he is saying: I played peek-a-boo, I painted the Jar, I made a tower, I became a drummer, it poured on my art work and I finally painted it!

Having exceeded 1 minute in my 30 available and been this mom an honest woman, I only have one more thing to say: I was able to  discover the self directed play of my boy was much better than “my creative idea” because I was taking the photos instead of saying “No darling, you don´t want to paint that jar, you cannot build brushes towers, this is not a drum, it´s not raining, see the sun?”…

I wonder how many times I might have interrupted my children in their own creative flow when wanting to “help them” to be creative.

Liked my story? I´d love to read yours!