I felt like crying many times lately for I can’t find an answer to a question that really disturbs me. So this is somewhat a catharsis. Hope you understand.
I offer playgroups for early childhood in Castelar, Argentina.
More and more parents ask me:
“Why nobody else works the way you do?”
Do you know what I do? I follow Magda Gerber´s teachings.
I wait, wait and wait.
I trust every child.
I don´t interrupt a playing child.
I let them cry out their feelings in a safe environment.
I broadcast their social efforts to interact with each other.
I nurture children´s trust setting limits. Lots of firm, calm limits. As many as I can and as soon as possible without feeling emotionally involved.
Then I say “I wont let you hit, you can trust me”. I trust the child and the child trusts me. Eventually they hit. Most of the time they wont.They are so happy.
Parents are there and listen.
So they ask me:
“Why nobody else works like you do? What you do is healing and rewarding and it is so different from what we see at educational facilities. It really helps us and helps our children”.
I am pretty sure I am not an educational savior.
I am no genius.
I am no hero but zero: the less I do, the better it goes.
I am sure there are many people working the way I do.
But I guess is not enough.
So little children come to my playgroup after being expelled from kindergarten at the age of 4 for the mere reason of not being conformists. For not complying with an educational system that does not respond to their real developmental needs.
Little children have been told they are inadequate for being different. So they have to go to the psychologist. The psychologist sends them to my playgroup.
And do you know what happens?
They get better. Much, much better. Because they are accepted as they are. Because they are not told their own and unique way of being is inadequate.
Of course I have studied. Of course I am a professional.
But I am not special, I have no magic.
So my heart burns and my voice cries out a question I can find no answer yet:
– Why? Why aren´t there more people working the way I do?
You don´t need much. Just a heart in your chest and a renewed vision in your mind.